Change is an integral part of life, bringing both progress and uncertainty. It can inspire innovation and self-improvement, but also cause anxiety and discomfort, leaving us unsure about what’s happening around us. As change unfolds, it challenges our belief system, tests our strength, and shifts our perspectives, raising many questions in our head.

We see this in various aspects of life. For example, in India, native languages are prohibited in English schools, and students are charged for each word spoken in their mother tongue while in English-speaking countries, people pay to learn those same languages. Similarly, people in Asia and Europe fight over religion and land, but unite in North America to fight for humanity. Meanwhile, Communities that show unity in religious places often treat each other as competitors right after stepping out of those premises.

However contradictions abound. In some countries, people struggle to make ends meet, paying taxes and clearing debts while their governments fund wars elsewhere. Minors who commit violent acts are seen mentally disturbed, while those using guns in self-defence face jail time. Some folks who view children as a burden, and run away from changing diapers adopting animals instead and doing the same tasks. Surprisingly, people who avoid decent conversations in public places or scared to talk to anyone in public transportation readily meet strangers from clubs and social media, even when intoxicated. Like how? In an era where love is considered the unity of two souls, people still argue about sexuality.

Furthermore, the internet, meant to boost creativity, has led to AI doing everything for us. And we are left here to waste our time on social media and spread hate instead of fostering genuine connections and being creative.

What kind of change is this? Is it progress or regression? How do you see this change? Please share your views in the comment section.

What is unfinished business, and are you experiencing any?

Unfinished business refers to the lingering emotional chaos between two entities, people, or energies. It can manifest in various ways, such as a sudden cold shoulder from someone you care about, an unexplained dream, or the absence of a familiar pet in the park – all creating a sense of incompleteness that leads to curiosity, anxiety, anger, or overthinking, depending on how it ended. If thought about excessively, it consumes your energy, leaving you exhausted and affecting your mental and physical health.

When I have unresolved business with someone, I find myself overthinking in various situations, negatively impacting my mood. Sometimes, I even neglect my daily routines, like cooking breakfast, due to mental exhaustion in the morning shower. I believe that even if you try to move on, curiosity about the unexplained reason may still bug you at any moment without warning. But how do we break this cycle? It surely takes more than just talking. If the issue is a misunderstanding, conversation might work, but it’s not always an option. What if the other person refuses to talk or you don’t want to create a scene? Or what if you’ve lost your birthday gift in a river and don’t know how to swim? Or your role model has attempted suicide.

In such cases, acceptance, journaling, and understanding the other perspective are essential. Seek closure if possible or try to make peace with it. Share it with your loved ones or a therapist. However, prioritize self-care and avoid compromising your well-being in pursuit of answers or solutions to everything. Remember, unfinished business is a karmic cycle – either you’ll find the courage to end it, or the universe will bring it back into your life to prompt closure, but mostly it comes with better replacements. Staying positive can be a key stone to overcome such situations.

Don’t forget to share your experiences and approaches while dealing with these energies in the comments.”

When and why do we cry?

We cry when we are overwhelmed by emotions like sadness, guilt, happiness, or frustration. We cry when we’ve hurt someone unintentionally, feel helpless, or struggle to express ourselves authentically. We cry when we try to cut ties with our blood relations but can’t. We cry when we wonder if we’re a bad person after making poor choices or when we leave something behind after making a good choice. Either way, our emotions seek release. Bottling up emotions leads to frustration, which can lead to breakdowns. In these moments, we feel drained and may feel like we’re drowning in a sea of feelings, unsure of which one to address first.

For me, sometimes even confronting someone about something that bothers me leaves me feeling upset. I wonder if I hurt the person during the confrontation or used harsh tones that might make them feel inadequate or silenced. Because, I don’t want others to experience the same emotions I went through just to make my point. I feel sad and try to release these emotions through tears. Sometimes, I’ve felt bad and cried even after resolving arguments and questioned myself, “Why am I still crying?” Because our unprocessed emotions get processed by our tears. 

So, is crying in such situations a bad thing? No. I believe that crying can be a release, allowing our emotions to take the front seat and drive us toward healing. It’s a sign of vulnerability, acceptance, and honesty with ourselves, making us stronger. Crying is more than just bursting into tears.

During or after breakdowns, we gain the strength to talk to someone about our feelings or reflect on our emotions. We remind ourselves that it’s okay to make mistakes – they’re an integral part of our journey. After breakdowns, we feel light and gain the courage to acknowledge and learn from our faults, freeing ourselves from regrets. By allowing ourselves to cry, we process our emotions and confront our sensitivity and vulnerability. Embracing out vulnerability stage helps us become stronger, more resilient people. It’s safe to say that breakdowns actually help us heal and lead to transformation.

So, is having a breakdown a sign of vulnerability or strength? What are your thoughts?”

What do you feel when you’re being indecisive?

I know what I feel when I try to weigh the pros and cons of something and can’t make a decision. I feel drained. Being an independent person I’ve made all my decisions without anyone’s help. Still, many. times I get caught up in the cycle of indecision, and it’s not always related to big things. It can be anything from big to small, from relocating to a new place, changing jobs, to choosing between two outfits for a Monday or two dishes for dinner. It can be anything.

As a fire sign, I behave like a Libra sometimes, weighing all the benefits or drawbacks of a particular subject, which is not a bad thing. A person should always think before jumping into anything. But the feeling of being indecisive can be frustrating. I feel like I have some kind of inability, which affects my overall confidence and makes me feel like a zero. It becomes worse when it leads me to overthink and hate myself. Yes, I hate myself when I’m lost in my head, creating all the scenarios about a particular topic and cant reach a conclusion. I scold myself for behaving like a dumb person, like, How can I be so stupid? It seems hard to win, especially when the fight is with your own thoughts.

But this is not true. Being indecisive about something doesn’t mean we are stupid or incapable. It’s just that we are human who are prone to overthinking. I know what I have to do when I find myself stuck for a long time. I take a step back and remind myself that I have the power to make decisions because each choice will teach me something as always.

If you struggle with indecisiveness, know that you are not alone and you do have the ability to make any decision any time after analyzing, but make sure not to overanalyze because when we overanalyze, overthink, or over consider anything, we feel stuck. Going back and forth on the same topic may leave us powerless in taking action, so it’s better not to let it go to that level and to get lost in your head. You just need to be confident enough to deal with the consequences or challenges associated with each choice because they will help you grow eventually.

Please share your experience about this feeling or how you overcome it and in the comment section.

Thanks.

How soon you drop the matters?

This is a general question lingering in my mind after an argument with a connection.

I realized, when I have any disagreement with my loved ones or outsiders, I don’t feel nice about it. I feel consumed by sadness and unhappiness. It feels gross either being rude or have someone yelling at you, doesn’t matter what’s the reason but the sting of harsh words or bitter silence feels unbearable, regardless of who is at fault. I have seen people swiftly move on after apologies are exchanged but for me, it’s different. I can‘t simply drop the issue, especially if it’s deeply personal or hurtful.

For me, apologizing in the moment is about maintaining peace and fairness, but it doesn’t mean we should suppress our emotions. It doesn’t mean we can‘t feel the actual emotions we are going through. After apology, If you feel sad, feel sad, if you feel like crying, cry, but share these emotions with your opponent. If the issue still lingers in your mind, it’s not fully resolved. The air is still thick with tension just because you haven’t shared your post-apology emotions which is equally important to sharing your emotions before or during the conflict. To truly move on, one must courageously express one’s feelings to the other person .Only then we can genuinely start anew, with a deeper understanding and empathy for each other’s perspectives.

Remember, emotional honesty is the only way to heal, move forward, and rediscover the beauty in our relationships. 

Penned by Ray. K