How soon you drop the matters?
This is a general question lingering in my mind after an argument with a connection.
I realized, when I have any disagreement with my loved ones or outsiders, I don’t feel nice about it. I feel consumed by sadness and unhappiness. It feels gross either being rude or have someone yelling at you, doesn’t matter what’s the reason but the sting of harsh words or bitter silence feels unbearable, regardless of who is at fault. I have seen people swiftly move on after apologies are exchanged but for me, it’s different. I can‘t simply drop the issue, especially if it’s deeply personal or hurtful.
For me, apologizing in the moment is about maintaining peace and fairness, but it doesn’t mean we should suppress our emotions. It doesn’t mean we can‘t feel the actual emotions we are going through. After apology, If you feel sad, feel sad, if you feel like crying, cry, but share these emotions with your opponent. If the issue still lingers in your mind, it’s not fully resolved. The air is still thick with tension just because you haven’t shared your post-apology emotions which is equally important to sharing your emotions before or during the conflict. To truly move on, one must courageously express one’s feelings to the other person .Only then we can genuinely start anew, with a deeper understanding and empathy for each other’s perspectives.
Remember, emotional honesty is the only way to heal, move forward, and rediscover the beauty in our relationships.
Penned by Ray. K